EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE AT WORK  

   In the simplest form, emotional intelligence (EI) is “the ability to perceive and express emotion,assimilate emotion in thought,understand and reason with emotionand regulate emotion in self and others”(Mayer, Salovey and Caruso, 2000).This term plays a big role in every part of people’s life. People always need emotional intelligence to develop their relationships, make their targets properly etc. This situtation is valid on work performance. Initially,emotional intelligent was not regarded as a important term for job satisfaction,but as technology and other things are developing,companies need people with higher emotional intelligence. Thanks to people with high EI,companies can avoid stereotype people and can be creative.Thus emotional intelligence has a important effect on work performance.

  Some people thinks that emotional intelligent is not useful and they say there are other factors which affect job satisfaction. According to them age and experiences are very important.And if a company has a old worker who has a deep experiences in his/her field, it is regarded as strong and powerful. Or they think that sex,level of IQ and learning degree have an effect on job performance. Some say that  men are more effective at work than women or people with high IQ level is enough to run a company.However these ideas is not valid today’s world. Now companies are searching for people with high emotional intelligence.Age and experiences is still important but they do not work alone.A man or woman who is young and have high emotional intelligence can be as successful as a old and experienced man or woman if they are given chance to prove themselves. Or there is not a certain justice about men are better than women at work. Today nobody is superior to anybody. When it comes to IQ level,it is really important for person himself/herself and humanbeings. However, IQ level is more effective when it has a interaction with emotions,as the writer said that “ IQ gets you hired but EQ gets you promoted”(Gibbs,1995). In other words,IQ does not work effectively alone,too.

    It is obvious that emotional intelligence is important for job satisfaction.First of all,it plays major role in atmosphere of workplaces. In terms of profitability, workers with high emotional intelligent know how to use it and are more creative thanks to emotional intelligence. When they infuse a product,they shape product what people demands,because they know what people want.They do not just keen on functions of product,also they give importance for aesthectic,so people is satisfied with new products. Apart from profitability,EI makes workplaces more friendly. Generally,workplaces are serious and gloomy places. Workers do not talk with one another very much,but people with emotional intelligence know how to act and make conservation with people. They can maintain cooperation,trust and even if something is wrong,they provide positive contribution.According to writer “ Emotional intelligence influences one’s ability to succeed in coping with environmental demands and pressures” (Bar-On 1997). With this way,people likes their job and go to work willingly. Actually, workplaces where people work  happily and friendly is more productive.  In other words,the more people feel comfortable at work,the more productivity there is. At this point emotional intelligence is important for both of them.

   Secondly, people with high emotional intelligent have importance for companies. Today companies are searching for effective leader. One of the most important quality of effective leader is emotional intelligence. All we know that effective leaders are intelligent people,but the thing which a good leader distinguish from normal workers is their ability of using emotions together with intelligence to facilitate performance. People who manage to use both things are always precious for companies and companies future. And emotional intelligence encourage people to invest new things.They never stops,they are always in searching. This makes them effective leader. Also people with high emotional intelligence are more active in organizations. They have a confidence and reflect it to co-workers and audienes. This confidence makes audiences curious and cause enthusiasim and among the co-workers develop collective sense of goals.Thus,organizations people with high emotional intelligent participate in, are completed more effectively.

  All in all, although some people thinks that emotional intelligence is not important so much it is obvious that emotional intelligence has an effect on work performance. It positively affects workplaces,workmates,condition of company. Also companies draw attention to stress that they are searching for people with emotional intelligence. Therefore,we shouldn’t ignore the importance of emotional intelligence.

                           HOW TO MAKE A GIRLFRIEND

In my previous writing, i mentioned about how women can make a boyfrind. Of course, being in a relationship is just not only special to women. There can be a type of man who needs a advice. In this writing i want to give tips to men to make a girlfriend.

1)    Be her hero. Whenever she is in trouble or worried about something, don't just sit there with her. Ask her how you can help, but don't insist that she let you. Be patient with anything she goes through and be supportive.

2)   Don't fly too deep into the friend zone. Be friendly with her without always being available. Girls love guys who are a bit mysterious, so try to cultivate a bit of mystery — don't always pick up the phone, let on where you're going, etc.

3)   Pay attention to how you look. Your guy-friends probably don't care than you walk around in the same clothes that you mow the lawn in, but the girl of your dreams probably won't be very impressed. Shower and shave every day. Wear clothes that actually fit. every guy needs a good pair of jeans, a fitting t-shirt, a simple but elegant collared shirt, and shoes to fit the occasion.

4)   Be charming:You must at least have some kind of charm to appeal to a woman. Most men are charming in a couple different ways. Be a gentleman. This means opening doors, paying for a date, keeping your word, etc. Girls love to feel like a gentleman cares about them.

    Be witty. Girls love guys who are great conversationalists, who can turn anything into a joke. Learn how to elegantly make fun of yourself.

5)   Be reliable. Every girl wants a guy who, at the end of the day, is reliable — dependable not because he has to be, but because he wants to be. Being reliable is all about telling a girl that she has security with you. Try to be the most reliable guy you know.

6)   Try to be funny: This gives the girl a reason to relax. A person is more responsive and receptive when relaxed. It helps you connect with her emotionally/intellectually. She should enjoy your company and not be bored. 

7)   Don't flirt with other girls too much. A girl might really like you but if she sees you dancing or talking with another girl, that could be a dealbreaker. Make sure she knows you're interested in only her.

8)   Compliment her. Give her some good old-fashioned compliments. Don't compliment her ability to do every little thing perfectly, or you'll seem too needy or obsessive yourself. But a well-placed compliment can make a girl remember you for days on end!

9)   Give her reasons to be reminded of you. Sing or hum songs, talk about movies, share favorite places. Anything that, when she hears/sees it again, will make her think of you.

10) Balance your sensitive side with your masculine side. Girls like guys who are in touch with their feminine side without being girly at all. That means you have to understand where she's coming from but still be thoroughly manly if you can. 

SUPERSIZE ME: IT IS TIME TO STOP BLAMING FAT PEOPLE FOR         THEIR SIZE

In today’s world people have more tendency on gaining weight. In the essay writer stated that people are not guilty for it. According to writer said that health officels must be accused of it. I agree with the writer. Our food and beverages have more calories and their ingredients has some addiction affect. As people eat and drink them, they want much more. With this way, they have excessive calories more than their needs.  If the energy people take is much more than the energy they burn, it turns out obesity. Except genetic reasons, the reason of obesıty is health officels. They can be more cautious. They may be forbid ingredients causing addiction or they can make advertisement encouraging people to eat vegetables not fast food. Of course people must take some precautions. To prevent obesity they can be somethings that would be beneficial for them. These are

1)   Drink too much water

2)  At every turn, do sport

3)  Decrease thhe time you spend in front of PC and TV

4)  Chewing meals very well and eat slowly

5)  Eat in a arranged time and do not miss

6)  Do not drink sugary and gassy beverages

7)  Walk every day

To sum up, Health Officals must pay more attention and people take some precautions to prevent gaining weight.

                                HOW TO MAKE A BOYFRIEND

 In the past,  women were shy to asking for date and men were supposed to make everthing. They are supposed to be brave and persistent. However this condition have changed in recently years. From now on, women also have been courageous and they are self-reliant enough to asking for a date to men, but they do not behave like men. They do not ask directly. To making a boyfriend, they have some tips and steps. Now i want to explain these steps J

1)    Make sure he doesn't have a girlfriend . Also, you have to be aware that if he just went through a break up, he might just be on rebound. The feelings wouldn't be what you are seeking.  So you have to stay away from this type of men

2)   Make the first move. If you find a man who you share a lot in common with, don't wait for them to ask you to hang out. He might be shy, so he might not be the one to approach, because he thinks you might reject him. If you love books, invite them to the library or a poetry night with you. Do something he might share in common with you.

3)   Take it slow. Try not to be that girl who looks too desperate. Do not rush him. Give each other space. Usually, if you hit it off really well and have a lot of fun together, the friendship will tend to automatically grow into more frequent visits.

4)   Smile. When he is looking at you, just smile. Humans respond to smiles intensely and immediately, and when heading towards a man of your choice, he'll get a powerful non-verbal message that you're nice and approachable. Even if you've never spoken before, he'll be compelled to notice and eventually say hello to you if you keep eye contact and smile.

5)   Be approachable. This is especially important if he's the kind of guy who's used to having girls approach him. Do nothing at first but lock eyes, smile, and turn your attention elsewhere or keep walking. Then he will come to near you.

6)   Engage him to talk. He won't know that you're great unless you've aroused his desire to know.

7)   Try to become friends. Most guys tend to date girls who they have more things in common than just the "relationship" stuff. Being close friends with him makes it easier for you to interact with him.

8)   Keep going. Keep meeting and hanging out with other people. Before you know it, you'll have a whole circle of friends. Variety is the spice of life, so it's important to build a network of friends.

9)   Show him that you would be a good fit for him. You can do this by sharing common interests such as certain music, but not overdoing it.

10) Make him feel important Guys seek status to satisfy their ego and as a female, a male's perception of your status is vital to how much he values you because in a way it reflects his own status.

11)  Don't criticize him harshly. Being criticized by a girl might make guy stay away from you. Do not criticize him harsly, buy you can tell in a mild way.

12) Just be yourself. If you're not, then how else would you know if he likes you or not for who you are? If you are pretending to be someone you are not, you will feel uncomfortable every time you are around him and that is the last thing you would like to happen.

                                       CAN WOMEN AND MEN BE FRİENDS?

   Can women and men be friends?  I think there is no absolute answer for this question. It can be answered according to men’s perspective and women’s perspective. First of all i want to explain from the sight of women as i can do. Women are innocent, emotional etc. If someone take care of them, they will be happy. Their friends’ sexs are not important for them, because they keen on the relationship, well-enough communication. If they can tell everything to their male friends, it can alright for them to be friend.  They can do something together and this does not disturb women as long as they have no emotional feeling to each other. This can be answered “yes” by women honestly.

From the men’s perspective, this condition maybe is not valid for them. Men always think of “sex”.  Even Freud thinks no men can be friends with women whom they do not want to have sex relationship. I partially agree with this idea. I think most men have sexual desire women at first. Maybe with time, men decrease this feeling and can be friends with women. However men are not as emotional as women. Maybe they do not tell everything to women as women do. So i do not think  there are men who can absolutely say that i can be friend with women.

When it comes to my thought, i can be friends with a men, but i cannot tell everything to them. As a women, my problems are different from theirs. Maybe my problem is not important for them, even it can be silly for a man. I can easily speak to my female friends, but i can be uncomfortable with a men. Of course, i have common hobbies, talkings with them. I have a close male friends. We are good and do something together, but i am shy when we talk talk about private subject such as boyfriend. So women and men can be friends, but this relationship is not too close. Both sides are more relax when they are with their own sex.

                                                     HISTORY OF ICE CREAM

      Do you know that ice cream whose consumption increase quickly with the coming of hot summer days is now 3.000 years old? Although it is thought that Chinese were the first race who met ice cream, heroes of the story of the first ice cream was Romans.

   Roman emperor, Neron, is widely known with his bellicosity also his gluttonous. While he was watching gladiator’s fights, he rewarded his chefs who served delicious meals to emperor. One day, one of the chefs filled the snow which he collected from a peak of mountain with compress in a container. He served it to emperor by pour honey and small fruits on it. Neron liked very much it which he had not tasted before. The other day he sent his soldiers to collect snow. He made chefs prepare the first ice cream by pouring honey and small fruits. These  method which come from Romans is still used by people who live in Anatolia, but they use it with one difference, they try to gain unique taste with molasses not honey.

  Homeland of the ice and cold beverages is always East countries. Those who lived in Anatolia, Arabians and Iranians drank ice sugary waters which called “şerbet” or drank ice fruit juices.  Western people, who met culture of the East, discovered flavors which were unique in East. Ice cream descriptions, which Marka Polo brought from China, gave a new sight to Italian chefs. They developed different ice creams on their own. Chefs who were exiled to France palace by Catherine of Florentine who was married to France king Henry II, taught to their France counterparts how to make ice cream. Ice cream coming to Europe in the seventeen century was famous in a short time.

    It is known that there were almost 250 ice cream shops in Paris. At 1851 Jacob Fussel began to make ice cream and buy in U.S.A.  In Italy there is a unique kind ice cream which is prepared with different ingredients: Semi- freddo. This famous ice cream is prepared by adding creamy biscuit before it is frozen. At old times ice cream was made in containers which were covered by salt and ice. After 1900, with the advent of refrigerator ice cream spread to all over world.  The cornet which gives a chick taste first appeared in World Exhibition which held on Missouri Louis at 1904.

  Ice cream in Turkey was prepared in special ice cream shops or by street ice cream sellers in the past.  Hand-churned ice cream became famous with a name called “Maraş ice cream”. Boiled milk intensified by adding salep is made cool by mixing. Combination whose environment is covered with ice layer is made frozen by beating. With this way ice cream become a dessert which stretch like gum and does not melt easily.